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Friday the 20th of January, 2006

Dear Gay Man….

Dear Gay Man,

Life is too short to live without being Happy.

I was taught a valuable lesson long ago, if you’re not happy with yourself, only a fool would try to change you, I’m nobody’s fool.

Most people never look beyond the surface to see what lies underneath, and for those I offer pity because they will never know what true love they may have passed up along the way searching for the next, the next and the next. Thru their path along a rocky road they learn no lesson but rather continue with the same repeated pattern of frustration, and self destruction.

It’s a very superficial world in which we live, full of advertisements telling us what we need, what we need to look like, and how “cute and sexy” the one standing beside us needs to be. Do they tell you what you’re suppose to do when you need someone to hold your hand, when you have to face another lonely evening looking at your monitor instead of into someone’s eyes, do they tell you how you’re suppose to cope when the current person in you life moves along because he found something better, even though the only attraction you had to him was because he was cute. How long are you going to go thru life treating people so bad because something about them doesn’t meet up to the standards of an X-boyfriend that hurt you. Think who lied to you, who used you, and who loved you without conditions. But you chose to lie to him that loved you, and treated him with disrespect because others have questioned “why” he’s a part of your life, and you answered it to yourself, because he’s honest and treats me with respect, but you still made the choice to live life with their shallow superficial standards instead of those in your heart. How about that wonderful meal you cooked, guess what, tomorrow you’re eating leftovers because there is no one to share it with.

Then there are holidays with the family, another year goes by you go alone. They’re really wondering why you don’t have someone with you, are you that hard to live with? And if you think your family doesn’t know you’re gay, ask around, you haven’t dated a girl since high school, your shirts are always ironed, and you have the best looking nails at the table, not to mention you brought the best looking dessert. H E L L O, they know, but respect your privacy until you’re ready to confirm.

And if you want to go there on religion, ok where did GOD say it was wrong to love a man? A lot of others did, because they were lonely judgmental people, but does their judgment of you make it any better? Do they bring you happiness? Do they give you the love, respect, consideration, and admiration you deserve? No only the person that loves you UNCONDITIONALLY and God can do that.

So do you love yourself enough to allow for your total happiness? If you don’t maybe you just need to go shopping and buy a new outfit, at least that way the surface shoppers can say, “he’s cute” and never slow down enough to say, “He’s one hell of a man.”

Sincerely,

The one you just walked past.

PS. Every day of life should be a new adventure. If you forget to smile along the way, you passed someone by that could have benefited from it.

Posted by rtkenmore at 12:28 AM on the 20th of January, 2006.
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